In Marriage Submit unto one another and adorn yourself with a meek and quiet spirit

In Marriage Submit unto one another and adorn yourself with a meek and quiet spirit                                                                                                                                        


The state of marriage is in disarray today and is only getting worse. Which in turn is destroying the home and family and our children. Also can be traced to the downfall of our Faith, Church, Community and Country. Many among us may not agree with this statement, however, here is the proof, in God’s Word. And it all started with the fall of mankind from grace.


For from the beginning God has given us instruction to walk in His Grace and from the beginning we, both man and woman have defied Him. Which lead to troubles in God ‘s House, marriage etc..


Now let us look at the truth written by God. Which started with Satan’s temptation of



Genesis 3:4-6 (KJV)
4 And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die: 5 For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.



6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.


Genesis 3:16-19 (KJV)
16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.



17 And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life;



18 Thorns also and thistles shall it bring forth to thee; and thou shalt eat the herb of the field;
19 In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it was thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.


Now let us look at what started the downfall and following troubles. We see in Genesis 3:4-6 Eve’s temptation by Satan, Eve fell, out her lust and desire to be like God, to be His equal. And when her eyes were open, eaten of the tree of knowledge, and she saw the error of her lust and desires she drew Adam into her sin. And Adam forgot that his obedience was to God before all else and put his trust in Eve.


As it is written;

Matthew 10:34-38Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)

34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. 37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 And he that taketh not his cross, and follows after me, is not worthy of me.


And Eve for her lust and desires to be as God, was commanded v16 “and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over there.”  For God made Eve to be “Genesis 2:18 (KJV)
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”


Sadly it is these lust and desires of the flesh and disobedience, of not putting God first, that have been at the root of the troubles of mankind. For when man and woman ate of the tree of knowledge their lust, desires and disobedience, to chase after the flesh and the world only increased. And lead to their receiving more of God’s wrath, as we can see in Isaiah 3:16-24. Though this is speaking to the daughters this has become as much of a problem for men as well woman today.


Isaiah 3:16-24 (KJV)
16 Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet:


17 Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will discover their secret parts. 18  In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet, and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon, 19  The chains, and the bracelets, and the mufflers, 20  The bonnets, and the ornaments of the legs, and the headbands, and the tablets, and the earrings, 21  The rings, and nose jewels, 22  The changeable suits of apparel, and the mantles, and the wimples, and the crisping pins, 23  The glasses, and the fine linen, and the hoods, and the vails.



24 And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink; and instead of a girdle a rent; and instead of well-set hair baldness; and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth; and burning instead of beauty.


And now we see in the following scriptures the problem continues on in the New Covenant and Christ is still giving the same commands unto those in the marriage vows.


Romans 7:1-3 (KJV)
1   Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he lives?
2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he lives; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband lives, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.



Here in Romans Christ reminds us, that are under the marriage vow, that God has said it is a vow unto death, and they only way to end that vow is the death of the fleshly body. And warns us of the consequences for breaking that vow.


But sadly in today’s world people enter into marriage for the wrong reasons, for self-indulgence having no commitment to take it unto death. But only as long as it appeal to their fleshly needs and desires. Thus turning marriage into a battle ground instead a union of love, compassion and commitment.


1 Corinthians 7:1-5 (KJV)
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.



3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.



5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.


Here 1 Corinthians we can see the command that is broken the most in marriage. Most Husbands and Wives are more concerned with their own wants and desires and not their spouses. And they turn sex from being a gift of God to help control their lust and desires, in a Godly manner, into a weapon to be used to hold sex as a hostage to get their own desires from the other. Marriage is a union of equality where husbands and wives seek to please one another more than themselves, out of love and compassion, in God’s eyes. As is it is written (below) in Ephesians 5:21-33.


1 Corinthians 7:39 (KJV)
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.


Ephesians 5:21-33 (KJV) See Genesis 3:4-6, 16
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. 22 Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.



24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27  That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.



29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.



32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.


1 Peter 3:1-7 (KJV)
1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.



3  Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4  But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.



5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.



7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


Here in 1 Peter the matter of subjection or submitting unto the Husband is a command of God due to the sins of Eve which have fallen on all women. It has never meant subjection of domination. This is act of women honoring the command of God from Genesis 3:16, by honoring their husband as the head of the family as God has fore ordained. As written;

1 Corinthians 11:3 (KJV)
3 But I would have you know that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.


From all this we all need to understand God created man and woman equal to be help mates copartners in marriage, family, church of the Body of Christ and community. Working together as one for the betterment of all. And God’s command to wives, for the sin of Eve, is not a submission unto their husband for dominance, but a submission unto the husband so to honor God by submitting unto His command, “and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”.


So let us honor God by new our mind to the Spirit in a Faith of a Complete Desired and Willing Obedience unto Him and Christ His Ling Word.


Rev. Dennis Dean Wilson Jr

God’s House of Prayer of the True Worshiper

(John 1:1-4 & 14 / 2 Peter 1:16-21)